“Public speaking is the art of diluting a two-minute idea with a two-hour vocabulary.” John Fitzgerald Kennedy

When you’re speaking, it helps to be prepared. That may sound funny after what I’ve just told you, but if you read every day, you will already be prepared-maybe not for the fine points you are specifically speaking about, but usually we are asked to speak about something we are experts at or at least familiar with. Cover your bases mentally. Imagine yourself being in audience. What are you looking for? Being able to trade places with the audience can open you up to a lot of ideas.

2. Have Notes.

Have examples and references in mind to back up your statements, and make them as vivid as possible for your listeners. Notes can sometimes function as a useful reference point, especially if you’re speaking to a large audience. If you’re prepared, no one can tell that you’re using them. Ideally, you don’t want to read a speech. For some reason, no matter how good your delivery is when you read a speech, it’s usually boring. Everyone sees that you’re reading it and it’s never quite the same as delivering it off the cuff. Notes offer the best of both worlds: They keep you focused and moving in the right direction without turning you into a stiff.

3. Be A Good Storyteller.

People like stories, and they’ll remember them. A speech shouldn’t become a lecture. Humor goes a long way, and it will remind you and everyone else that we’ve all got a lot of things in common. Storytelling is a skill, so work on it. It’s helpful to listen to comedians. The good ones can teach you the art of great timing.

4. Think About The Common Experiences.

How can all of us relate to one another? How can you enable your audience to relate to you and to what you’re saying? Everyone has a daily routine and a family. You stuck in traffic jams, you have cranky moments and bad days like everyone else. A lot of your experience can be understood and appreciated by your audience because they’ve had them, too. Look for what you have in common and lead with it. You will create and immediate bond, because they will realize they can relate to you.

5. Be A Entertainer.

People are there to learn something, but also to be entertained. One reasons Elvis Presley was such a great entertainer is that he made every effort to tune in to his audience –it was give-and-take all the way. And nobody did it like Sinatra. Some people call it charisma. I call it tinning in delivering.

6. Be Able To Poke Fun At Yourself.

This will make you accessible to people even if you are up the stage and in the spotlight. We’ve all had disasters in our lives, major and minor. To be able to laugh at them in retrospect is healthy and helpful. Use the blips that we all encounter in our lives to your advantage.

7. Learn To Think On Your Feet.

Memorable public speaking involves a good deal of spontaneity. It’s a lot like negotiating-you have to focus on your goals but remain flexible. A lot of people are terrific writers but not so great at getting their ideas across orally. Writing is a form of thinking, and so is peaking. The difference is that you don’t have time to go back and correct yourself when you’re onstage. It’s not a first draft and it’s not a rehearsal. Be prepared for the performance, because that’s what’s expected of you.

8. Listen In Your Daily Life.

Every day can be a preparation for a speech or a presentation. Have you ever said to yourself, “I will have to remember that one” after hearing someone say something particularly clever or unusual? Even offhand comments that you overhear can be useful. Remember them. Make notes if you must. Everything and everyone can become material.

9. Have A Good Time.

It’s contagious. If your audience believes you are enjoying what you are doing, they’ll enjoy being in your company. If it’s an obvious chore to you, forget it and find someone else to speak for you. Before you speak, remind yourself that it doesn’t matter all that much. Don’t feel that the weight of the world is on you. Most of the people in the room don’t care how well or poorly you do. It’s just not that important. It’s merely a speech-not an earthquake or a war. You’ll have a better time and be a better speaker if you keep it all in perspective.

So, think about your audience first. The rest will fall into place. Involve your audience. They will appreciate being included.

“Managing to have a sense of humor makes it a lot easier to manage people” Steve Wilson

Do you have problems managing your time? I am sure that almost everyone encounters this problem: how do I make more time for myself, my job and people I love. First of all, you need to understand and learn how to identify the jobs that are most—and least—important, focus your time on the most critical task, and avoid time wasters.

Learn about how you spend your time, as well as about using goals as guideposts, scheduling your time, controlling time wasters, and putting your schedule into action.

In this article you will find basic and productive steps to manage the priceless asset called “time” and learn how to prioritize your goals. Have a look and try to implement some of the presented ideas to your daily life activity.

1. Analyze How You Currently Spend Your Time.

For at least one day and preferably a week, use a time log to record the things you do. Note each activity and how long it takes. Tally your activities into categories. Take each category and total the number of minutes spent on it each day. Divide the result by the total number of minutes in your day. (An 8-hour day has 480 minutes.)

This tells you the percentage of time that you spend working on that activity. Determine whether the time you spend in each category matches your key responsibilities. Evaluate your time usage in terms of payoff.

2. Review Your Goals.

Review your organizational, departmental, and personal goals. Consider the priorities that you have assigned to each goal, and ask yourself whether you are attempting too much. If the answer is yes, try adjusting your priorities.

3. Break Your Goals Into Manageable Tasks.

Review each of your goals individually, and list all of the key tasks required to achieve each goal. Put the tasks in sequential order. Estimate how much of your time each task or activity will require. Establish a deadline for the completion of each task or activity. For more complex activities set up milestones along the way to track your progress.

Assign priorities to each task, based on the priority of the goal that each task supports. Note which tasks need to be completed in a sequence, and which may be done at any time before or after a particular stage is reached.

4. Schedule Your Time.

Take your top priority tasks and block them into time slots over several weeks or months, using a scheduling tool that allows you to take a daily, weekly, and monthly perspective. Schedule important work or activities that need creativity and intelligence during your peak energy period. Schedule only part of your day, leaving time to deal with crises and the unexpected.

Combine tasks and consolidate similar activities, where possible. Identify tasks to work on when you have unexpected free time. Use to-do lists to break daily tasks into further detail. Keep your schedule easily accessible. Check on your progress throughout the day to see if you are on target.

5. Identify Your Time Wasters And Outline Strategies To Deal With Them.

Review your time log and identify the types of things that prevent you from keeping to your schedule. Work with one time waster at a time. For each time waster, brainstorm strategies that match your personal style. Experiment with the strategies you develop and keep the ones that are realistic. Make sure to add those time wasters you cannot control back into your schedule.

6. Implement Your Schedule.

Once you have analyzed your time and time wasters, and scheduled your time, you are ready to implement your schedule. Carry your to-do list with you during the day. Review your schedule at the end of the day. Reward yourself for tasks completed on schedule and make any adjustments needed during the rest of the week. Handle unexpected tasks quickly and return to your priority tasks.

As changes occur, modify your weekly schedule to compensate. Remember, new habits, like adhering to a schedule, are hard to adopt at first. The more you do it, the more automatic it becomes.

7. Evaluate Your Schedule And Make Adjustments.

After you have been using scheduling tools for about one month, monitor the implementation and results of your schedule. Ask yourself the following: Are you completing the tasks you set for the week? Are you making progress on achieving your goals? Do you feel better prepared and focused? What was the impact of not doing some tasks? Modify your schedule based on your analysis.

Most important, you should do everything you can to avoid interruptions that waste your time or take you away from your primary goals.

“A liar will not be believed, even when he speaks the truth.” Psychology      

1. If You Think That’s Bad, Wait Until You Hear This!

This tactic works well because it forces the liars into thinking emotionally instead of logically. It alleviates their guilt by making them feel that they are not alone, and it throws them off by creating a little anger and/or curiosity. Plus he/she thinks that you are exchanging information, instead they are giving you something for nothing.

2. It Was An Accident. Really!

This is a great strategy because it makes them feel that it would be a good thing to have you know exactly what happened. They did something wrong, true, but that is no longer your concern. You shift the focus of your concern to his/her intentions, not their actions. This makes it easy for them to confess to their behavior and “make it okay” with the explanation that it was unintentional. They feel that you care about their motivation. In other words, you let them know that the source of your concern is not what have they done, but why they done it.

3. The Boomerang.

This trick really throws a psychological curveball. With this example you tell them that he/she did something good, not bad. They are completely thrown off by this. For example, if you are interviewing someone and you want to see if they are lying to you, play them nice by asking questions if they really did those things in the resume. 

4. Truth or Consequences.

With this tactic you force your antagonist to work with you or you both end up with nothing. This is the exact opposite of the boomerang. Here the person has nothing unless he cooperates with you. Since you have nothing anyway (the truth), it’s a good tradeoff for you.

5. Speak Now or Forever Hold Your Peace.

Human beings place a premium on that which is scarce. Simply put rare equals good. You can dramatically increase your leverage by conveying that this is the only time that you will discuss this. Let them know that (a) this is his last chance he’ll have for explaining himself, and (b) you can get what you need from someone else. Try increasing the rate of your speech as well. The faster you speak, the less time he has to process the information, and it conveys as stronger sense of urgency. Give a deadline with a penalty for not meeting it. Deadlines force action.

If the guilty party thinks that he/she can always come clean, then he/she will take a wait-and-see approach before tipping their hands. Let the person know that you already know and have proof of his action. And admitting their sins, you will give them the opportunity to explain his/her side.

6. Reverse Course.

You convey to them what happened or what they did was a good thing insofar as it allows you to establish an even better relationship – personal or professional. You give them an opportunity to explain why they took that choice. You also blame yourself.

7. I Hate To Do This, But You Leave Me No Choice.

This is the only strategy that involves threat. You let them become aware that there are going to be greater ramifications and repercussions than just lying to you – things that they never thought about. You rely on their imagination to set the terms of the damage that you can inflict. Their mind will race through every possible scenario as their own fears turn against them.

8. I Guess You’re Not Allowed.

Never underestimate the power of appealing to a person’s ego. Sometimes you want to inflate it, and others times you want to attack it. This bullet is for attacking. It’s truly saddening how fragile some people’s egos are.

9. Higher Authority.

As long as the person believes that you are on his side, he’ll take the bait. All you have to do is let him know that anything he’s lied about can now be cleared up in seconds. However, if anyone else finds out about it later, it’s too late. Let’s say that you want to know if your secretary leaves early when you’re out of the office.

10. The Great Unknown.

You can obtain maximum leverage by explaining how the ramifications of their deceit will be something that the suspect has never known before. Even if they believe that you are limited in what you can do to them and in what the penalty can be, the severity of the penalty can be manipulated in two major ways to make it appear much more severe: time and impact.

• Time: Give no indication of when the penalty will occur. When things happen unexpectedly, the degree of anguish is more potent.

• Impact: Convey that his/her entire life will be disrupted and drastically altered for the worse. They needs to see that this event is not isolated and will instead have a ripple effect. When bad things happen we are often comforted in knowing that it will soon be over and the rest of our life will remain intact and unaffected. But if these things are not assured, we become increasingly fearful and concerned.

11. I Couldn’t Care Less.

A primary law governing human nature is that we all have a need to feel significant. Nobody wants to be thought of as unimportant, or feel that his ideas and thinking is irrelevant. Take away a person’s belief that they have value and they will do just about anything to reassert their sense of importance. Your apathy toward the situation will unnerve them immensely. They will begin to crave recognition and acceptance, in any form. They need to know you care what happens, and if talking about their misdeeds is the only way they can find out, they will.

You can’t just tell a person what they will gain by being truthful or lose by continuing to lie; you must make it real for them – so real, in fact, that they can feel, taste, touch, see, and hear it. The payoff for confessing needs to be immediate, clear, specific, and compelling. Make it their reality. Involve as many of the senses as you can, particularly visual, auditory, and kinesthetic.

“Consider how hard it is to change yourself and you’ll understand what little chance you have in trying changing others.”

You are who you think you are; but also, you are a role model to others, what they really think about you. If everyone around you will start treating you badly, ignore you completely, then you need to ask yourself: who I really am?  

But if, people treat you honorably, as an important person and like your presence, then this confirms your beliefs about who you are and how you accept yourself.

Here are some suggestions to use in making others feel important and be admired for your character.

1. Be Alert.

Always look for a possibility to praise everyone’s action and achievements. A vigilant and wise person will always find reasons to congratulate and praise anyone.

2. Be Alive.

Manifest enthusiasm in your relations with others. Express your excitement to have met them by simply shaking hand, smile or words. Show a happy face, this with no doubt will give you a feeling of joy.

3. Be Available.

Show your interest in others. Offer your help in every possible way. Encourage their actions, just a simple word of encouragement can make an impressive contribution to their actions and give them power to believe in what they do.

4. Be Attentive.

Ask about their families and favorite hobbies. Try to find out how they contribute to the society and cheer their efforts. Discover what are their concerns and if they need help.

5. Be Appreciative.

To appreciate means to value, as to depreciate means to lose value. No human being is really happy if he is not appreciated and respected. An appreciation word can sometime make a great impact on people, they begin to have confidence and trust their actions.

6. Be Approving.

Everyone desires to get support for his efforts and actions. Approving their actions, you approve who they are and what they represent. There is always something positive to approve at someone. Everyone likes compliments.

7. Be Affectionate.

Affection makes a person feel relaxed and pleased of who they are, human relations become friendlier. A sweet word sends an important message to anyone – it means you care about them, you appreciate them.

8. Be Acceptable.

Accept people for who they are. Let them feel free and open in expressing their own ideas and opinions. Through acceptance and tolerance we give power and courage to those who want to change their way of thinking in the good direction.

9. Be Affirmative.

Praise with all your heart and don’t criticize. Affirmative and positive statements encourage and help people to aim higher in life. Always acknowledge peoples actions when is needed.

There are many ways to help others to feel important. To be gallant, polite and helpful is a good start.