“Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we’ve been waiting for. We are the change that we seek.”                                 Barack Obama

As we grow up, we reach a point in our lives when we open up to change. A whole new understanding allows us to accept information that will help us to unlock our self-improvement power. Until that change happens, something we need to improve in our lives could be staring us in the face, however, we will not see it; even if it is right under our noses. Usually, the key factor that triggers the unlocking of our self-improvement power, is when our lives have turned for the worst.

Barack Obama showed the world a clear example of change, the change we can believe in, and when we believe, we achieve. Self improvement power comes in action when change is necessary, we as humans tend to learn our lessons when we encounter pain. The key is to make our self-improvement power work for us always.

We finally open up and see the warning signs when things get rough for us. For examples: When we realize we need to change what we eat? Well, when none of our clothes we normally wear, fit us. When do we stop eating sweets, and going to bed without brushing our teeth? Well, when our teeth start to decay. When do we stop smoking? Unfortunately, it is usually when our lungs have become unhealthy. When do we pray to God and ask for help? When we realize that we may be on our last breath on this earth. And of course: When we understand that our country is going to a wrong direction? Well, it is when we realize that people at power are dumb enough to forget about the country.

So, let’s get back to the key change factors about self-improvement power and try to use it in the right direction for our life.

1. Don’t ignore it.

Most of us learn to unlock our self-improvement power, when our world around us is crashing down. Stress conquers us because it is not easy for us to change our habit-paths we have set for ourselves. However, change can become even more painful when we decide to ignore it.

2. Change we must take.

Change always happens, like it or not. We all experience turning points, at one point or another in our lives…when we realize what happened we finally unlock our self-improvement power. Not because the world tells us to. Not because our friends are nagging us to do it. Once set in our ways, we become so stubborn to change, that permanent self-changes don’t happen because we are reading books, or going to classes, self improvement only happens when we come to a cross road, then we realize that without improving ourselves there is no good happening for us.

3.Break the cage.

Happy people do not just accept change they accept it entirely. So don’t allow yourself to suffer when your life hits self-improvement changes on you. Unlocking your power means you are unlocking yourself from the cage of thought that your mind sets: “its just the way I am, I can’t change that”. Most people program their minds like computers to think that way. That cage of thought it’s an apology for people who fear and resist change.

4.Take a look at your world.

Self-improvement may not be your preferred matter, and you may think you do not need to do any change in your life. But improving yourself can really happen just by taking a look at your world; your environment from a different angle. You may discover you are enjoying the entire process of your life, instead of counting the days until you are fully improved.

5.Habits that can bring change.

Going to gym would result a healthier life, that’s called self-improvement. Taking self-improvement trainings, reading helpful books instead of reading pointless trash can also put you on track to better-rounded feelings about yourself. Even visiting your friends can help you take a step back and unwind a bit from a negative mindset and feel better about yourself.

6. Fulfill your purpose in life.

Self-improvement power brings out the true control of the individual and teaches him how to use his powers positively for his upbringing. Helps the person to meet new challenges everyday and helps him grasping new opportunities. It helps him fulfilling his duties towards himself and his society. It helps him understand the purpose of his life, as each person in the world has to fulfill a purpose in life.

Overall, anything that improves the physical, material, or mental part of a person is a form of self-improvement power. No one is perfect, but many of us can try to get as close as we can.

When you are enjoying the whole process of unlocking your self-improvement power, you will understand that you are beginning to become a happier person.

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“Clarity of mind means clarity of passion, too; this is why a great and clear mind loves ardently and sees distinctly what he loves.”                                                               Blaise Pascal

Passion is one of the keys to a happy life. You can’t possibly be fulfilled if you are spending a third of your day working for something that neither benefits nor motivates you. Doing something that you are obsessive about gives you that edge; it is like having a fireball that drives you forward in your attempt. It is easy to see that if you are passionate about something the odds of your success are greatly increased.

Many people try to hold a powerful blaze within themselves, but it impatiently and persistently gnaws at their core. Some have tried to cover it up with alcohol, drugs, even shopping, kids, work, or religion, or fuel it with sex. The powerful blaze is never used, and people never find that fire which carries both energy and discomfort. The key is to use the discomfort as a motivator and the energy as fuel.

If you want to find your passion, it is all around you. The clues are in the very things that you may already be finding pleasure out of. Here are some simple steps to help you uncover your passion.

1. Connect to your roots and soul.

When we are connected to our roots and our souls, passion rises fast and drives us  to the next level of life, learning or love. It does not have to be love for your mate. It could be creative passion, fueling what we do for work, community, family, or ourselves. Anything that absorbs where the totality of who you are, requires passion. To loose it, is  the soul ’s death, or at least profound sleep. It will cry to be heard when it sleeps.

2.Look for your passion.

Remember when you fell in love for the first time? Nothing else mattered for you. You experienced it as if you would walk to the end of the earth for that love. While that first passionate, all intense love does not last, it gives us a flavor of a power within ourselves that carries wonderful energy. Look for your passion and it will find you.

3.Balance your passion.

Have you ever been afraid of your passion? Fear will consume you and nothing else will matter. For example, did you ever have small taste of it when you worked for hours into the night, you got so  absorbed by your work that you forgot to sleep and eat. You must have time in your life to live the every day life of doing the ordinary things that must be done. Balance is probably still the key, but you must not loose your passion all together. Your life will be too dry and boring without it.

4. Maybe is already there.

A lot of people think that their passions are best left for the holidays, vacations and days off. Your passion should not be only your hobby that you enjoy in your spare time. Sure sometimes we need to be doing what is in our hand, that is what we are skilled at or trained in for our work, but sometimes passion can be found in your daily job, you never know when it can turn into a rewarding career. Many people became happy and rich simply by being passionate about what they were doing. Even your hobby that you spend significant time in, can be turned into something rewarding. You can also earn a living by doing something that you love and enjoy.

5.Find what are you passionate about.

Where do you enjoy spending your time? The key to unlocking your passions in life can simply be found in all areas you are currently spending substantial time  . If you discover that you can do an activity, and time just disappears then that ’s an evidence to finding what you are passionate about.

6.Unlock your passions.

The first step to unlocking what your passions are, is to simply make a list all the things that you enjoy spending time doing or would like to spend time doing. Be as creative as you want, maybe some of the things that you would love to do one day, are things you can’t afford as a hobby but you could actually pursue it in your job instead.

When you have your wish list of passions, write out why you are passionate and enthusiastic about them. Be comprehensive, the more enthusiastic and passionate you are about something the more likely that you will be motivated and driven to succeed in it.

7.Find your most passionate one.

Now rank your wish list from the one you are more passionate about to the least. Now it’s simply a matter of finding more information on how you can now turn this passion into reality. After all, life is short; why not spend your days doing something that is just immensely rewarding and fulfilling for you.

Pursue your passions and you will immensely improve the quality of your life in all areas.

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“A business that makes nothing but money is a poor kind of business.”           Henry Ford

It’s becoming obvious for a couple of years that many people running or managing business have their priorities all mixed up. It’s really not amazing, when you think what they’ve been reading in books, going to trainings or hearing from business consultants. For quite a while, it seemed, anyone striving for success in business was encouraged to adopt an aggressive behavior to win.

Business books, trainings and management experts recommend leaders to follow the habits of predators. But, right now most people now consider this type of advice is already out of date. Predators are on the way down. Kind, intelligent, caring people are on the way up in the business world.

Guided by their intelligence and their good sense, they share these three intangibles as widely as possible. Why do they share their love so freely? Because the old laws of supply and demand don’t apply in most competitive zones of the New World Economy.

The old laws said that scarcity created value. Today, the opposite can be true. Sharing a great idea makes it a more valuable idea. Including more people in your network makes it a more valuable network. Distributing your compassion more widely makes it more likely that people will respond to you with compassion. There are some tips those people use to succeed; they use them always, no matter what.

1.Being Bold.

Being bold. That is where it all starts. In business, you have to be bold to even seriously think about starting a new business. You have to be bold to tell someone about it. You have to be fearless to get someone to buy into it. You have to be brave to quit your nine to five job and strike out on your own. To win the game, you first must be bold enough to play it.

2.Being Authentic.

Authentic means being real, embracing the business world for what it is and not trying to gloss over the challenges, risks, and dangers we face in today’s global economy. Authentic means remembering that business is mostly about hard work, control, the willingness to accept frustration, and the strength to learn from failure.

3. Being Intelligent.

Today’s successful businessman is more like a farmer than a big-game hunter. They understands that all companies, large and small, follow natural cycles. There’s a foreseeable pulse to the business process that cannot be ignored. In other words, we all have experienced a return to reality. We realize now that being intelligent is better than being clever, that being honest is better than being smooth, and that being authentic is better than being slick.

4.Being Noisy.

Being noisy and being heard breaks through the noise of our world’s never-ending sales pitch. You have to believe you’re bold, you know to watch the bottom line. Now get noticed.

5.Being Endearing.

When you love your employees, they not only love working for you, but they also pass that love along to your customers. They will lavish your customers with impeccable service. They will be passionate about your company and turn customers into raving fans. In business, love does make the world go ’round. You can have good products and a great plan, but without taking care of people, you’ll never reach the fourth “p”— profit. Simply put, make your company lovable.

6. Being for a good human capital strategy.

It has been said that first-rate leaders hire first-rate teammates, and second-rate managers hire third-rate employees. Every small or midsize company operating in a highly competitive market today needs to fine-tune a human capital strategy that includes hiring, training, nurturing, rewarding, and retaining a critical mass of the most talented, energetic, action-oriented, entrepreneurial over- achievers it can find.

7.Being Energetic.

What does it mean to be energetic? I think that energetic is a blend of boldness, intelligence, motivation, and willpower. Energetic is going where no one has gone before. Energetic is doing the unexpected. Energetic is following your own best character, following the feelings that make you what you are. Sometimes it’s a rough climb to get where we need to go, but the extra effort almost always pays off.

8.Being confident.

Confident companies stay close to their customers and know what they are thinking. Confident companies are never caught off guard or surprised by sudden shifts in the market. They have the confidence to move into uncharted territory and be wildly innovative.

Leaping ahead of the competition involves taking risks, but that’s what being confident is all about—staying in front of the wave. Not waiting, but jumping right in and paddling as hard as you can!

9. Being a Lovecat.

The best companies today don’t measure success by market share or by victories over the competition. They measure success by the strength, quality, and value of their relationships with their customers. The people in today’s business world who are the most successful, the most appreciated, and the most satisfied are the lovecats. Simply defined, lovecats are people who share their experience, their networks, and their compassion with their business partners. These companies apply love to the marketplace—and they profit from it. Sometimes it takes only a couple of good ideas to make a lot of money.

Think about the most successful companies of the World and you’ll see immediately what I mean.

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“The leader shows that style is no substitute for substance, that creating an impression is more potent than acting from one’s center” Lao Tzu

Good moods stimulate good performances, but it doesn’t make sense for a leader to be happy as a blue jay at dawn if sales are taking or business is going under. The most effective leaders display moods and behaviors that match the situation at hand, with a healthy dose of optimism mixed in. They respect how other people are feeling – even if it is glum or defeated - but they also model what it looks like to move forward with hope and humor.

This kind of performance, which is called character, is for all intents and purposes the four components of emotional intelligence in action.

1.Self-awareness.

Self-awareness, perhaps the most important of the emotional intelligences competencies, is the ability to read your emotions. It allows people to know their assets and boundaries and feel sure about their self-worth. Resonant leaders use self-awareness to measure their own moods precisely, and they naturally know they are affecting others.

2.Self-management.

Self-management is the gift to control your emotions and act with sincerity and integrity in reliable and flexible ways. Resonant leaders don’t let their infrequent bad moods seize the day; they use self-management to leave it outside the office or to explain its source to people in a practical way, so they know where it’s coming from and how long it might last.

3.Social awareness.

Social awareness includes the key capabilities of understanding and organizational instinct. Socially aware leaders do more than sense other people’s emotions, they show that they care. Further, they are professional at reading the currents of office politics. Thus, resonant leaders often strongly understand how their words and actions make others feel, and they are sensitive enough top change them when that impact is harmful.

4.Relationship management.

Relationship management, the last of the emotional intelligence competencies, includes the abilities to talk openly and persuasively, disarm arguments, and create strong personal relationships. Resonant leaders use these skills to extend their passion and solve discrepancies, often with humor and kindness.

As successful as resonant leadership is, it is just as rare. Most people suffer through dissonant leaders whose toxic moods and disturbing behaviors wreck havoc before hopeful and realistic leader repairs the situation.

And of course, everyone knows of a rude and coercive boss who, by all appearances, symbolize the antithesis of emotional intelligence yet seems to reap business results.

In short, it’s all too easy for a cynic to argue against the value of leaders who control their moods by citing a “rough and tough” leader who achieved good business results despite his bad behavior. There are, of course, exceptions to the rule, and that in some specific business cases, a boss resonates just fine. But in general, leaders who are jerks must reform or else their moods and actions will eventually catch up with them.

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“It is better to be defeated on principle than to win on lies.”                    Arthur Calwell

We live in a world where we have dishonesty, cheatings and lies; it can be at work, your business or any parts of your life. But, the truth is that most people who lie usually confide in at least one other person. It’s important to let this person believe that you already know the truth and then add your emotional feedback to it.

You can turn a discussion in any direction that you choose. You can do this very professionally with just a few appropriate words. After they make a statement, you can use key words to direct the flow of information in any way that you prefer. They can be used to obtain information from any discussion.

Saying “meaning…” word after he or she speaks, directs their thinking and the conversation toward the larger picture, giving you a better look at their overall position. It will offer the reason for the position.The response “and…” gives you more imaginative information. You’ll be able to gather additional facts. The “so…” response makes them get more precise, giving you the details of their position. The “now…” response makes them interpret their position into a specific action. They will proceed to tell you exactly what they mean and how it applies to you.

Sometimes you’ll get an answer, but it doesn’t do you much good. Here are a couple ways of narrowing it down.

1. Ask simple details.

During the discussion simply ask general, clear questions pertaining to your doubt. This causes the person you are questioning to remember information. If he’s lying, he’ll take a while to answer because he first has to check his answer mentally to be sure it makes sense. False stories do not have details because they never happened!

Ask questions that will give you an objective, not a subjective response. For instance, if you think an employee was home when he said he would be away on vacation, don’t ask him how he enjoyed the weather in California, but rather ask “Did you rent a car?” Once he answers yes to any question, ask for more detail. If he’s lying, he’ll try to keep the facts straight and will take his time answering further questions.

2. Include into discussion a false detail.

Add a detail and ask the person to comment on it. This fact is one that you’ve made up, but one that sounds perfectly logical. For example, if you wanted to know if someone really indeed went on a safari to Africa, you mention that you have a friend who works as a customs officer at the Nairobi airport told you that everyone going to Africa was given special instructions on how to avoid malaria. As soon as he validates your claim in an attempt to back up his affirmation that he has gone to Africa, you know that his story is false. Otherwise he would simply say that he doesn’t know what your friend is talking about.

3. Hold up a detail.

In this arrangement you take what the person says and ask for evidence, but in a very non-threatening manner. For example, in the case of the person who claimed he had gone on safari, you might let him know that you would love to see pictures of the tour. If he offers up an explanation why you can’t see the pictures, then this should arouse some doubt.

4. Develop a detail.

Use this clue to verify how far someone is prepared to go to get what he or she wants. All you need to do is develop on a detail that he or she has already presented. If they just go on without correcting you, then you know that they may be lying about what they said so far and/or is prepared to lie to get you to see their point. For example, one of your employees asks you for the rest of the day off because it’s not feeling well. You might say, “of course, if you have fever and a bad headache, by all means go home.” He or she never claimed to have these symptoms. You merely prolonged on their declaration.

5. Let the truth be enlighten.

These simple words work better than any others do:

1. Because: We’re programmed to accept a clarification as valid if it follows this word.

2. Let’s: This word produces group impression and initiates a bandwagon effect; it’s positive and creates action.

3. Try: This little word is a great motivator because it has a “what’s the harm” attitude.

For example, “Let’s give it a try because if it doesn’t work we can always go back to the way it was.” Obviously you haven’t introduced any reason for the person to take action, yet it seems to make sense just the same.

Taking control if you’re tired of talks.

If in a situation where you are powerless to speak because the person keeps talking or interrupting, use some zingers like these. They play on two vulnerable angles of human nature – personality and interest.

1. “You’re a intelligent person; let me ask you something.”

2. “I know that you would want me to ask you this.”

3. “You’re the only one who would know the answer to this.”

4. “I hope this information doesn’t upset you.”

5. “Along those lines…” It’s easy to change discussion when you begin with the other’s last opinion.

Few things are more annoying than dealing with someone who just doesn’t give a damn and lies to you. Why? Because you don’t have a whole lot to work with. You’ve got zero influence. He’s got nothing at risk, so you’ve got little negotiating power. You simply have to modify the equation so he’s got something at stake.

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