“Love takes off masks that we fear we cannot live without and know we cannot love within.” James Arthur Baldwin

Have you ever felt or do you feel now, that you lack someone special in your life and worry that something might be wrong with you? Having that special women or man in a flourishing realtionship sometimes might be hard to get. There is a secret fear and lie that comes into you mind all the time, like “you might never find the “one” (man/women) or might spend the rest of your life lonely and alone.”

Since you have the power to change yourself, this is the time to strategically withdraw and evaluate where you fell short, then make some corrections in your approach to relationships.

1. Have Self-respect.

You sould simply have a fundamental understanding of the motivating psychological factors of human being and then apply them the best you can. You have to show self-respect, if you don’t, at least act like you do. It’s not necessary to be perfect in order to win the game of love. Just try to apply the self respect feeling, which will offer a most favorable result as your relationship increasingly gets better and better.

2. Be Strong-minded.

Show some control in your determinations. If you seem to be spiritless about your plans and intentions, it turns potential lovers off. People look for someone strong to relate with, upon whom they can lean emotionally.

3. Don’t Open Yourself Too Much.

If you want the person you are in love with to show the same feeling, then you need to know, that opening too soon and too much to the person you are in relation with, will bring down your chances to get closer to each other. But the only way to spark someone’s passion is to make sure you don’t let them become overconfident of your commitment to them too soon.

4. Learn To Build Passion.

If you want to keep them passionately interested while you are building a more lasting solid relationship, you must never allow them to become overconfident that they have you. The minute you do, your magic spell over them will begin to lose its power. Passion thrives on a mix of both hope and doubt.

5. Learn To Listen.

If you listen to another human being, you will be giving them one of the greatest gifts of their life, as well as laying the foundation for them to fall in love with you. By listening to another person and then summing up for them what you heard them just say, with a humble invitation for them to clarify where you’re not getting it all, you’ll hook them for life! Many people go through life and never experience in their entire mortal existence the feeling of having someone show a sincere interest in truly wanting to understand them.

6. Surprise Them.

A little diversity is the excitement of life, and impulsiveness will help you add a little secrecy and intrigue to your image. Do some surprising things sometimes. Though they may act shocked, people can’t help but smile when someone, they thought they had pegged, surprises them and is a little nothing dangerous or immoral off the wall.

7. Be A Game Player.

Don’t ever believe what people say, that they don’t like game players, that they will fall in love with somebody who disregards the rules of romantic behavior. Our psychological needs are hard wired into us, and will win out over idealistic sayings.

8. Be Patient.

The more certain course to victory is to take your time. A good fisherman doesn’t try to reel in his fish right away, lest the fish still has enough strength to wrench itself free. The seasoned fisherman allows the fish lots of line and time to wear itself out, while still on the hook, before finally reeling it in.

9. Get Used To Each Other.

Part of falling in love is just getting used to being around someone. That’s why we love our families and childhood friends so much. Love is what you go through together. So don’t be too hasty to conclude that time spent just being together isn’t building towards something greater down the road. It usually does.

The conclusion is that men and women don’t understand the simple gestures of tenderness sometimes, a good word said at the right time, either simple attempt to listen can be a path towards to a flourishing relationship.